The Anger Problem You Need To Fight.

The Anger Problem You Need To Fight.

This article will be short, snappy and informative. Its intention isn’t to be engaging, but rather to deliver a weighty amount of truth concisely and directly. My hope and prayers are that after reading it you will take time to think, study and pray about anger and take active steps to tackle it where it is apparent in your life of which I am sure it is.

Anger is done by all of you. It’s not a part of you that is sectioned off and hidden. Anger has the ability to completely dominate your thoughts, behaviour, desires and beliefs. To say ‘I was just a bit angry’ is a fallacy in that your whole body, mind and soul was affected even if for a moment and even if on a minor scale.

Anger can burn hot or it can burn cold and can be everything in between. While you may not scream and shout the cold and freezing effects of your anger may burn stronger than the raging and foaming mouth of a lunatic. Anger is intriguing as it affects every single one of us. Even those who deny its reality in their lives. The difference may be the scale with small minor irritations (a frown, on side and large-scale physiological responses (increased heart rate, clenched fists, violent outbursts etc) on the other hand it may be small scale but deep reactions (bitterness, long period thought cycles, re-running the justifying your rightness and highlighting the opposing parties stupidity/foolishness/selfishness/whatever I would never do _____ etc etc.

Anger is body, soul and minds responses to what it feels is wrong. Where one feels no anger, one feels nothing is wrong with the world. It’s for this reason that anger affects us all. We all feel some things are wrong with the world in one way or another. Some of these thoughts and feeling are justified. Others are not. This is why one can feel angry at a traffic jam even when it has nothing to do with them or they are not the cause of it. To be angry is to be human as to be angry is to have a conscience. Our inbuilt nature that processes what is right and what is wrong. However, like the fall, our anger (underpinned by our ‘judgement system’) has become distorted. As such we can get angry at things, we shouldn’t feel anger over (such as traffic jams). This is not to say that we are incapable of being ‘angry’ over the right things, but rather a point of caution that we must be aware of in order to be ‘righteously angry.’ To not be angry is to see nothing wrong with the world which in a fallen world is a crime in itself

God is angry. The best anger is the best love. God’s anger fell on Jesus even though it was meant to fall on you. God’s anger disarms the power of sin in that he shows mercy to us by sending us the power to defeat sin. God’s anger will deliver us from the pain of others sins. His anger will be poured out on those who chose not to repent. God’s anger serves as a reminder to run the good race and fight the good fight.

Christians have the power to process anger like (see notes below) God, resulting in mercy and forgiveness where injustice has occurred and repentance and deeper faith where we recognise our anger has been unrighteously served (Being angry that we haven’t received the level of respect we think we deserve(entitlement), being upset for not getting what we think we deserve (entitlement again) etc)

The Gospel helps us tackle anger. Like all things the Gospel gives us hope in the area of our lives. Our anger can be reformed not because we have the ability to change but because God has the ability to change you.

Christians can do this by A) seeking more grace from the Lord in our anger and B) Taking our anger apart and putting it back together again.

  1. What is my situation
  2. How do I react?
  3. What are my motives?
  4. What are the consequences?
  5. What is true?
  6. How do I turn to God for help?
  7. How could I respond constructively in this situation?
  8. What are the consequences of faith and obedience?

The little frustrations are often the hardest cases. Not because they are so hard to get over but because they are so commonplace. Someone being inefficient. Poor phone signal. A hard to discern accent over the phone. Late trains. All these commonplace reasons to be angry often lead to complaining. Major sins are only minor sins grown up. Complaining has the same DNA as rage. Everyday anger is a major problem as it leads us to treat others are subhuman/inefficient/ semi being and by that very attitude, we act like a superhuman. This is what God calls pride. Our everyday anger is often about convenience and ease. These two things often being idols in our lives.

Anger at self is commonplace. Anger at self leads to acting in the role of an implacable God of which you set the standards to meet (and fail) OR the aggrieved victim( I’ve failed MYSELF. I’ve brought shame upon MYSELF. The person I should be is… The person the world should see is…) Questions to dismantle this anger include…

  1. What ladder are you climbing? (Are you the judge who’s opinion matters most? Do other people serve are judges?)
  2. Whose ladder are you climbing?
  3. Who can pick you up when you fall?

Anger at God is understandable but unjustifiable as he is God all the time. That’s all I’ll say on this one but just know you are not alone in this one (Jonah is a textbook example)

For more help…

Passages to study

  • James
  • The life of Jesus in the Gospel’s
  • The book of Kings (Idolatry is exposed and broken down really well)

Books to Read (Personal Recommendations)

  • Good & Angry: Redeeming Anger, Irritation and Bitterness – David Powlison
  • How to Change – Paul Tripp

*I deliberated over the use of this word I prayerfully hope you take time to understand what I mean by this. Like God does not mean after regeneration you will process anger perfectly.)

The End Of Drill

The End Of Drill

I wrote this for the TCS Network, in regards to recent action taken by the Met Police. Feel free to message me and check more amazing content from the TCS network on their website.

What’s happened so far?

by Akwasi Appiah

On Wednesday, YouTube, on request from the Metropolitan Police, took down over half of the ‘violent’ drill songs on their platform.  Songs by artists such as 67, 1011 and Hemz have been targeted. Met Commissioner Cressida Dick stated that “Drill music is associated with lyrics which are about glamorising serious violence: murder, stabbings,” and thus is the reasoning behind the call to remove the videos. Drill music, which originates in Chicago, has become increasingly more popular in the capital with many young people saying it is a reflection of modern society in urban areas of London. It is a style of trap music, defined by ‘its dark, grim, violent, nihilistic lyrical content and ominous trap-influenced beats‘.

67 are one the most notorious drill artists it is yet to be confirmed if their videos will be removed.

ItsPressPlay an Instagram Drill promotion channel had a meeting with YouTube last week and shared a statement via an Instagram post that was recently taken down.

 Statement from Itspressplay

They anticipate that the videos will be put back up and if they are, it proves that the action taken was a political agenda to deflect from the realities of the cuts affecting the police department. As of the 30th of May there have been 37 stabbings in the capital. Numbers not seen in many years. Yet still only on the 24th of May were further cuts announced to police dog units in the capital and home counties.

Questions must be asked by the public on whether this attack by the Metropolitan police on drill music is something that should be condoned. For years Heavy Metal has been listened to by swathes of young people. Yet its content has been heavily focused on the ‘dark side’ openly discuss drugs, drug overdoses and suicide. In addition, questions must be asked as to where the requests will stop. At the time of writing this article, Drake and Pusha T have been caught up in a ‘rap war.’ Pusha T directly attacked Drake’s producer Noah Shebib who suffers with Multiple Sclerosis.

OVO 40, hunched over like he 80, tick tick tick,
How much time he got he sick,sick,sick

Many, even those who are frequent hip-hop listeners, would argue that this direct attack on someone deteriorating health is ‘below the belt.’ But within hip hop culture and rap culture anything goes and it is part of the culture. Many would not condone Pusha T’s words and it is unlikely to spark a wave of hate against those with MS. The majority of people listen to music, as a form of entertainment, and it does not transfer or even correspond with their day-to-day lives or behaviour. Where will the accusations and blaming end?

How to get a perfect credit score by 21, in less than 6 months

How to get a perfect credit score by 21, in less than 6 months

Improving your credit rating is not as hard as you would think but it requires discipline and a plan. When I first signed up to Experian my credit score was below average. Being a student, and maybe not having a part-time job, a good credit score can be something easily overlooked. Once you graduate and leave university, your credit score will become ever more increasingly important. Especially, if you have ambitions of starting and growing a business.

What is my credit score and why is it important?

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A credit score is a measure of how well you handle debt. This may be to repaying your student loan debt, to a household mortgage. If you have a phone contract in your name, your credit score would have been taken into account before you were approved to take out the contract. This is an example of why having a good credit score is important. If you have a poor credit score you will find getting phone bills, mortgages, and loans from banks difficult. Or you will have to pay a higher level of interest, compared to a peer with a higher credit score.

Okay, I’m interested and get it, where do I start?

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First things first, you need to have an understanding of where your credit score is currently. Sign up to the following two websites, enter your details and find out what your credit score is currently.

CleareScore HERE: www.clearscore.com

Experian HERE: www.experian.com

Once you have done this, the next steps you take are paramount. Having received your credit score, and assuming you are a student, there a few ways to start making it climb. In terms of practical steps, you can follow these 5 steps. They are in increasing order of how much they build your score, but come with increased risks.

The steps I personally took.

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  1. Sign on to the electoral roll.

Signing on to the electoral should be your first step to improving your credit score. Why? Because it’s quick easy and will increase your credit score almost instantly. From a creditor’s point of view, it is a basic requirement. If debts are owned creditors can access the electoral roll, and know you have a residence of which they can locate you. Not being on the electoral roll will put an automatic cap on your credit score.

  1. Take responsibility for necessities.

Parent’s still paying your phone contract? Bills not being paid by you? Gone over your overdraft limit? These are just 3 examples of things that need to change and you need to start paying for in your name. Even if it is a case where you can negotiate that the contract is in your name, and your parents pay the money to you, this will be more beneficial than not paying it at all. Creditors take into account how well you pay your necessities before your non-essentials. Not paying your phone contract, paying your household bills etc, will show up in any report run in your name, and will take points off your score.

  1. Start to take out manageable direct debits.

Next, you want to start looking at direct debits. Signing up to direct debits, large or small, and making sure you pay them on time, is a good sign of how trustworthy you are. Examples that I started included my car insurance, road tax, and a cinema membership card. These are just a few examples, but it can really be anything that is of value. The key thing to do here is to plan and manage your finances, so that you don’t have to cancel these direct debits within a few months.

  1. Credit card

If you have done the steps above, the next step that will truly increase your credit score exponentially is to get a credit card. The best way to go about doing so, I found, is to use ClearScore’s improve credit page. It gives you a likelihood of being approved for different credit cards. CAUTION. Don’t go for names, but the credit card that is most likely to approve you. I initially went for Barclays, which ClearScore estimated I had an 80% chance of being approved. I was part of the 20% and this had a negative effect on my credit score. I followed this up by going for CapitalOne’s credit card and can say I have had 0 complaints. It has a very good app which you can use to track payments. I am going to be follow up article on credit cards, what they are, the do’s and dont’s, soon so look out for that coming soon.

  1. Trust the process!

When you go from no credit history to low credit history your score may go down, but do not worry! If you manage your credit well and trust the process, your score will increase. What you must now exercise it patience!

Any further questions?

Feel free to email me or get in contact with me via the contact section of the website!